There are many lessons that can be drawn from the life of Jesus and the relationships he had. One of those lessons is the need for godly friendships. Though Jesus had a few friends and twelve disciples whom He had a special relationship with, Jesus made a point to build an inner circle. This small circle was made up of only three people: Peter, James, and John. Jesus shared his pains and joys with his inner circle. He also confided in and prayed with them. They were even with Him when He went to Gethsemane (See Luke 22). Evidently, Jesus knew that in times of trials, he needed his inner circle and friends who had a pre-established history or relationship with God. These were godly friends. And if Jesus needed them, how much more are we in need of godly friends?
Here are some reasons why you should follow Jesus’ example and have at least three godly friends:
- First, if Jesus needed godly friends, you do too. Yes, it’s that simple.
- Godly friends are God-oriented. They focus on God and make Him their number one priority. Considering the fact that they are committed to living a righteous life, they also want to see you do the same.
- They redirect you on the right path. When you separate yourself from God because of sin, godly friends are those that will point it out to you in love and remind you to follow THE WAY (John 14:6). They want you to walk on the straight and narrow path.
- Wisdom and understanding often come through them. Proverbs 31:26 tells us that they “open [their] mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on [their] tongue”. If you need wisdom and understanding in your spiritual life, godly friends are there to help. God has strategically placed them in your life for this purpose because He will often speak through them.
- They sharpen you, help you become as well as do better, and encourage you on the way.
“Iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”- Proverbs 27:17
- Godly friends will never expose you to anything that can harm you physically or spiritually. If you struggle with a particular sin, they will not place you in a situation that could potentially cause you to fall because they know your weaknesses.
- They always speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:25). Although they care about your feelings, they care much more about your salvation. Therefore, they will not withhold telling you the truth even though it may offend you.
- In your dating life, godly friends can see the red flags that you choose to ignore or cannot see. When God can’t seem to reach you directly, He will use your friends to speak to you regarding someone you are dating. Godly friends are those that won’t hesitate to tell you if something is wrong with the person you are pursuing or who is pursuing you.
- When the world tells you your dreams are too big, godly friends will be the ones to remind you to dream even bigger because you serve the God who can do miracles.
- keep you accountable. Godly friends will hold you responsible for your words and actions. They will also build you up and encourage you in your journey.
- Godly friends encourage you to obey God.
“Encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called ‘Today’ so that none of you would fall into the deceitfulness of sin”- Hebrews 3:13
“Let us consider how to stimulate one another toward love and good deeds” Hebrews 10:24
- And most of all, godly friends are those you can count on in times of adversity (Proverbs 17:17). When it’s time to go to war (spiritually), they will suit up and get on their knees for you and with you.
We all need godly friends because none of us are perfect. We need encouragement, prayers, rebuke, and others to share our happiness as well as our burdens with. Most importantly, we need people who love us so much that they will always remind us to turn to God and will help us draw closer to Him. The friends who care about your salvation are your godly friends.