Singleness is a gift to be treasured. It’s a season that is all about you (and I say this in a non-selfish way). It’s about your growth, your time with God and more. It isn’t a curse and it is certainly not a limitation. Look at it as a season of opportunities.
There are things that you can’t easily do when you’re married or even dating. However, during your singleness, you can plant seeds in your life and take time to grow. Here are 5 things that you have the opportunity to do in this season.
1. Educate yourself, master a craft
While you’re single, it’s time for you to educate yourself. Whether you choose to learn a new craft, get a degree, or dig deeper in a field of your choice, singleness is the time to do it.
This is the time for you to discover what you are good at, what you have a passion for, and master that craft until you become an expert at it.
When I was in the fitness industry, I was single for a while and that was the best time for me to learn all that I could. In turn, I became the go-to person for some people. I focused so much on building my knowledge and a network around me. I created a Facebook profile just to market what I was doing and as a result, people reached out to me wanting to train with me, get on a nutrition program or just sought advice from me.
The Word of God tells us that “whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do ALL to the glory of God (1 Corinthians 10:31). To do anything to God’s glory is to do it with excellence.
So become an expert at something, and do what sets your soul on fire.
2. Fix your finances
Let’s be real. Our finances can become a mess at times. Between those old student loans, your car loans, your mortgage (if you own your home or a condo), or simply your bad spending habits, your finances can take a substantial hit. If you don’t take control of them, they will take control of you by depriving you of the freedom you’d like to have. So look around you and search for someone in your network, an expert, a friend who’s good with numbers, someone you know is on top of their game in this area, or even an online tool or book to help you take better control of your finances. Maybe you need to re-work your budget or make one to begin with. This is the best time to get rid of any debt, save some money and invest. While you are not financially responsible for another person and free to make financial decisions on your own, do it. Get yourself in the black zone and fix your credit too.
3. Set some health goals and crush them
We all know that health is wealth. There’s no better time than now for you to work on your health. This is the time for you to get rid of bad eating and health habits and cling to healthy ones. I can’t think of a better way to get healthy and meet new people at the same time. Whether you join a gym, an aerobics class, or take on kickboxing, the choice is yours. There are a variety of activities you can do that are healthy, safe, challenging, and fun. Just choose something! Set a goal for yourself and make a plan that will help you reach that goal. It doesn’t have to be big but practice a healthy lifestyle now. You don’t need to wait on a mate to take on a new activity. If you’ve been meaning to lose a few pounds, do that too. Choose something you like or something new that you think you may like so you can stick with it.
Remember, your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19) so go and take care of it.
There is a whole world out there that you have yet to discover. It’s a great time to travel and visit places you’ve never been to. If you’re waiting for a spouse to travel with, you may be disappointed when you find out they don’t like traveling or they don’t want to visit the places you have in mind. Want to go to Bali? Do it. Whether you take small trips to visit a huge country like mine (Canada), or travel across the ocean, go for it. God created a beautiful world for you to enjoy.
Don’t let your life go by, waiting for retirement or waiting for a mate to begin enjoying your surroundings. Tomorrow is not promised so pack your suitcase and grab your passport.
You might even find your mate on one of your trips, who knows?
5. Journey with God
As usual, I saved the best for last. During your singleness, you have the opportunity to dedicate your time to God.
Your time is yours! So devote your time to God by spending extra time in private worship, prayer, and even ministry if you are engaged in one. You can read and study your Bible, take part in small groups, attend prayer sessions and/or Bible study groups or even create your own. This is the season when you have God all to yourself, so take full advantage of it. When you’ll meet the right person, you will have to share them with God and share God with them. You won’t be able to worship or connect with God anytime because even your schedule won’t be yours alone (since there’s someone else to consider in the picture). So journey with God now because He has so much He wants to share with you.
So, my friend, singleness is not a jail sail. You can choose to look at the glass either half full or half empty. Take the limits off of your singleness. It has no limitations. As my girl Pam Ross often says: there is only one thing you shouldn’t do during your singleness; everything else is yours to choose from.