Today, I come to you with GOOD NEWS! If you are one of those members of Single, Saved & Secure ministry who relates more to the single portion of our ministry name, then this devotion is definitely for you.
When you think about the word ‘single’, what are some other words that come to mind?
I recently asked the same question on an Instagram survey and here is a portion of the words and phrases people recorded:
-alone -unloved -freedom -lack -missing something -adventure
-unmarried -riding solo -barren -picky – trying too hard
-commitment issues -incomplete
Wow the variety of comments I received painted quite a picture. People often equated singleness with loneliness and being incomplete. This off course is false.
The season of singleness is a season (however long or short) when, although you may be single, you are perfectly complete in Jesus Christ. You can rest securely knowing that the only one that could ever complete you is Christ. Many will try to fill the void through things or people. However, it won’t be long before they find out that this is not possible or they need something new to complete them. This void was created by God and for God so you may desire to pursue an intimate relationship with Him.
The world and the people in it, even well meaning Christians, have failed to understand that Jesus alone is their sufficiency. Don’t be too made at your fellow Christians though. Just as you are a work in progress, they are too and still have much to learn just as we do. As a result of this lack of understanding, many may comment on your season of singleness in a negative way or equate it to being unloved, being “abnormal” or being unable to “keep a woman [or man]”. Rest assure that God will honor your season of singleness and cares more about your faithfulness to Him and efforts in doing things His way through purity and holiness. Many have in their quest to meet their desires settled for what they could find, rushed ahead of God, and even deviated from God’s plan for their lives. If you are one of those people that fit in the latter category, don’t worry but thank God for redemption.
If you are in a place where your heart is turned to the Lord and you care to uphold his standards for your life, don’t allow the insecurities of others to distort the secure identity and sufficiency you have found in Jesus. Contrary to popular belief, Jesus IS enough!
You are not lonely nor are you incomplete because you are single.
You are not incomplete because you are choosing to remain pure until marriage.
You are not incomplete because you are set apart.
You are not incomplete because you choose to walk this life in a God-honoring manner and value His will.
You are God’s child, His daughter, His son, His princess, and prince whom He will reward at the proper time.
How do I know?
Simple, our Father says so.
Take a few examples from the Bible, examples of people who pleased God much and were granted favor.
I think of Hadassah. Hadassah, better known by her foreign name Esther, was a young woman who pleased God. Although God is never explicitly mentioned in the book of Esther, His work is revealed many times. In multiple instances, God’s favor upon Esther’s life is mentioned (see verses chapter 2:9, 15; 5:2).
God favored the young virgin and we can understand why when we read her story and notice that she followed in her uncle/cousin Mordecai’s footsteps. Her outward beauty was surpassed by her character, wisdom, bravery, and maturity. If Esther loved God and was as obedient to Him as she was to Mordecai, no wonder the Lord favored her.
Also, I think of young Mary, mother of Jesus, and how God loved her much. She too was a virgin and unmarried when she found favor with God. When speaking to Jewish descendants, many affirm that Jesus’ s mother could have been anyone as there were many young virgins in her days. Yet, I think this may not be completely accurate. Although God may have chosen a virgin through which to send His Son, scriptures makes it clear that Mary had something more:
“And the angel came to her and said “Greetings, favored woman! The lord is with you.” –Luke 1:28 (see also verse 30).
Mary found FAVOR with the Lord because of her relationship with Him. When she was given the news of her upcoming pregnancy, she welcomed it and professed that she was the servant of the Lord. Unless you choose to walk with the Lord and do so, favor is not something that comes to just anyone.
The Bible tells us that favor is for the righteous (Psalms 5:12). What attracts the favor of God is a surrendered and committed heart. When you are a person who surrenders your heart and commits your way to the Lord, in faithfulness, He will reward you.
“May the lord reward you for what you have done, and may you receive a full reward from the Lord God of Israel, under whose wings you have come for refuge.” – Ruth 2:12
“you will receive the reward of an inheritance from the Lord. You serve the Lord Christ.” – Colossians 3:24
Although the context surrounding the previous verses were not singleness, they were a clear indication that faithfulness to God and His ways yield great rewards. So my dear friend, how I wish I could leap through the pages right now, sit next to you and embrace you to let you are know that you are enough in Jesus. Jesus is your sufficiency and you are made complete through Him.
Today, I encourage you to faithfully and boldly proclaim that you are perfectly complete in Jesus Christ and loved by the One who is Love. No one will ever know how to love you as perfectly as the Father. So bask in His love and let it complete you.