“Be strong and courageous; don’t be terrified or afraid of them. For the Lord your God is the one who will go with you; he will not leave you or abandon you.” – Deuteronomy 31:6 CSB
I don’t know about you but I’m not much for waiting. I imagine you must be the same. Seating in my doctor’s office, I had been in that waiting room for quite some time and I started to become a bit frustrated. My appointment was for 10:15 a.m and it was now 11:45 a.m… If you are like me, you show up on time and expect to be seen on time plus or minus a few minutes but you certainly don’t expect to be there two hours later. No, that’s too much waiting. By 12:30 p.m, I had flipped through every magazine I could find in the waiting area, watched the morning show that was playing on the big screen and completed my grocery shopping list in my mind. Yet, still, my name had not been called over the intercom. Minute by minute, I was beginning to lose patience and get bored.
An hour later, I now felt discouraged. It seemed like everyone else’s name was being called except for mine. It was now nearly a full three hours when I finally got called. “Finally!” I could hear myself say.
Waiting is never a piece of cake. Waiting becomes harder with each passing second. Waiting, waiting, waiting! If you are currently in a season of singleness, waiting to move on to the next and have been in the waiting room for a while, it may seem discouraging when everyone else’s name gets called except for yours. Perhaps, most of your friends are now married and it seems like you are the “last single gall” or the “last single guy” out there. Perhaps you thought you would be married with kids by now living in a house with a white picket fence. Instead, you are still in what seems like a waiting room possibly alone. Frustration has built up, discouragement has also set in and disappointments accumulate daily. Perhaps you are even starting to get bitter. But friend, God says “be strong and courageous”. God has not forgotten about you.
The waiting room experience is never pleasant but it teaches us about what we need to work on such as patience and learning to control our emotions, overcoming disappointments and discouragement. Singleness is not a waiting room. But the waiting period during your singleness can often feel as if you are in one.
~In reality, the waiting room is a training ground in disguise.~
If you can learn to wait a little longer and better in this zone, you will enter your promise land and harvest much. You need to approach the waiting room differently.
Friend, be of good courage! God has a plan for your life that is far beyond anything you could ever imagine but you must trust Him while you wait. He will never leave you alone, never abandon you. He will be with you in everything that you face. Friend, it takes courage, trust, patience and a close relationship with God to wait for his best. Don’t settle for less simply because the wait seems long and the waiting room seems to get emptier by the minute, or you seem to run out of options. God does not want you settling for an option, He wants you to enjoy His very best. Stop looking at your singleness as a waiting room and start seeing it as a training ground. In the training zone, you wait, you prepare yourself, you anticipate God’s best, you become the best version of yourself and most of all you build a stronger foundation with Him. So friend, be strong and courageous, God is still at work on your behalf.
Father God, you know me and so you know that patience and courage aren’t my strongest qualities. You know my heart’s desire and the discouragement I have been experiencing in this season. Help me and teach me to look at this season as a training ground rather than a waiting room. Teach me to embrace every facet of this season and to embrace the quality time that we get to spend together. Draw me closer to you. And when I’m feeling low, remind me to keep my eyes on you and to trust that you still have my best at heart.In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Psalms 112:1 CSB
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 24