Every person is familiar with the process of waiting. We wait for a bus to get to work, for the oven to preheat, for our children to be old enough to take care of themselves, for Friday to come along and enjoy the weekend and for the next chapter of our lives to begin. We seem to be often in the process of waiting. We also wait to find the one. Most importantly, we have to wait for God’s best.
As single Christians, waiting is part of the journey that may eventually lead to marriage and perhaps starting a family. But waiting can often feel long, painful, and even frustrating.
The word for wait used often in the Bible (such as in Psalms 27:14) comes from the Hebrew word qâvâh, which means to bind together by twisting, to expect, or to look for. It stresses the straining of the mind in a certain direction, with an expectant attitude… a forward look with assurance. As a result, waiting on God, waiting on His best, requires us to be intentional. Yes, we have to be intentional about what we are waiting for. There must be an assurance, an expectation of what is to come. And because of that expectation, our attitude in the waiting process is critical.
When we choose to wait on God, to wait on His very best (because after all, that’s all that He desires for us: his best), we must also choose HOW we will wait. That is why we must be intentional in the wait since this period in our journey is not actually a pause, unlike popular belief. Too often, singles, even single Christians, enter the wait with an initial attitude of expectation that quickly turns into bitterness, stress, and frustration because God is not working on their timetable. They deem that God is not as quick to deliver what they desire compared to the fast-food-right-away-fifteen-second service they are so accustomed to getting nowadays. As a result, many start to complain and have an attitude that is questionable at times. Oh, how it should not be so! If only we realized that the attitude we have during our wait is actually one of the key criteria on which we are being “tested”.
The truth is that God desires to inspect our attitude during the wait. He cares more about how we wait than the fact that we wait. How we wait reveals the true nature of our heart and our trust in Him.
Are you waiting with joy, faith, great expectations, peace, and excitement? Or are you waiting in continual frustration, impatience, stressed out about the future and missing your seemingly perfect timeline?
The Word of God tells us exactly how we should wait:
“Rest in the Lord (or be still) and wait patiently for Him” -Psalms 37:7a
” Wait for the Lord and keep His way,” -Psalms 37:34a
As we wait, we should remain patient, resting, being still and trusting in God, as we keep walking with Him in ways that honor Him. If we have a bitter attitude, disobey, and complain, God can keep us even longer in the “wilderness” just as He did with the Israelites (Numbers 14) so that we may develop a better attitude in this season. The beauty about waiting well is that it develops patience that leads to perseverance, which will only build our characters and produce hope (Romans 5:4-6).
Moreover, what we do during the wait is also important. We are all servants of God to whom He has entrusted gifts and talents that need to be used and multiplied. As we wait, God is expected us to use those gifts to serve others. Like the man who left to go on a journey and entrusted his possessions to his three servants, we have been entrusted with gifts and talents that God wants to see us multiply just as the two servants who multiplied their two and five talents. We cannot hold on to what God has placed within us and hide it. Unlike the one servant with the single talent, we have to grow our talents. What’s more, there’s a great reward waiting for us in doing so, in being faithful with what God has given us.
The wait is our time to grow and become the best version of ourselves God had imagined when He created us. If there is an area of your life where you can improve, it is your responsibility and opportunity right now to work on it whether it is spiritual life, your finances, your education, your purpose, etc.
Finally, your waiting period is the perfect time to get closer to God. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 tells us that singleness is the best time for us to be concerned with the things of God and to be devoted to the Lord. As we do so, God will help prepare us for the future. Waiting well is the best way to position ourselves for what we are expecting from God. So begin today to wait well on God, and wait on the Lord with peace and joy!
PRAY ~ WAIT ~ TRUST